2 Babies – 2 Very Different Scenarios
Jane Long has been practising reflexology since 2003 and now has her own successful business, Calm Therapy in Eastbourne, East Sussex. This wonderful seaside town is where Jane grew up although she did spend 23 years in London prior to returning in 2014. She has 2 children, Dylan 12 and Mia who is 10 and home is shared with 2 gorgeous female guinea pigs, Lemon and Peanut. In London she worked in retail before moving into the music industry. At one point she was working, training to be a reflexologist as well as trying for a baby. This was certainly a stressful time and she found that reflexology was a treatment that helped her relax and unwind. She didn’t see the music business as a long-term career and made the decision that she wanted her own reflexology business and you could say, the rest is history!
Writing and Blogging was delighted to be invited to interview “the boss” to find out more about the differences between her two pregnancies and the impact that reflexology had.
During your first pregnancy, you had reflexology – can you tell us more?
Basically, I had reflexology throughout my first pregnancy, which I found very supportive and calming. Initially the sessions were every 2 weeks and then weekly, the closer it came to my due date. However I did experience a lot of discomfort, as I had a big baby weighing in at 9½ pounds. I also had morning sickness and found that the reflexology had a really calming effect; it did seem to sedate those hormone surges, which made me nauseous. Towards the end of the pregnancy, my hips ached a lot due to the pressure of the big baby I was carrying, but again the aches subsided after a reflexology treatment. Dylan arrived bang on his due date without any “priming for labour” techniques.
However, you chose not to have reflexology during your second pregnancy. Was there any particular reason for that?
It was really due to a lack of support. I fell pregnant forthe second time really quickly and with the problems I had had conceiving Dylan, I wasn’t expecting that. I was now pregnant again, was working and also had a 1 year old with little help with childcare. There really was little time for me!
So, no reflexology, what was the outcome?
Consequently, without the reflexology, I had a very uncomfortable, unsettled time throughout my whole pregnancy. My sickness continued for 5 months, which was extremely exhausting.The pregnancy was also very uncomfortable. My baby wriggled endlessly and the pressure on my digestive system and lower regions made me very miserable.
You were told to expect a big baby?
Towards the end of my second pregnancy, I was told by the midwives to expect a big baby as they thought that my baby was 7½ pounds at 36 weeks. This filled me with dread and bought back memories of the birth of my first child. As I said, Dylan was 9½ pounds and he arrived on his due date and I listened with a sense of dread as the midwives suggested that I would have a 10lb baby!
What did you do?
Due to my discomfort and desire not to deliver a huge baby, I decided that after I passed 37 weeks, I would apply the “Priming for labour” techniques to myself seeing as I am trained in Maternity Reflexology. So I sat on the couch and on and off over two or three days I worked specific reflex points and sure enough I went into labour at 37 weeks and 5 days.
How did this make you feel?
After delivering Mia I was overjoyed and relieved not to be pregnant any more. This was only because I had been so uncomfortable throughout my pregnancy.
Were there any negatives?
The real negative was that my baby did not look very happy at all when she arrived. She looked very red for the first few days and slept nearly all the time for the first couple of weeks after birth. Also for the first year of her life she never ever smiled! I can really describe her as a “grumpy” baby. Looking back on this experience, I may have been more than ready to deliver my baby, but my baby wasn’t ready to come into the world, even though she was very big in size.
With hindsight, what would you have done differently?
Yes, hindsight is a wonderful thing! What I should have done is have regular reflexology sessions throughout my second pregnancy to support and relax me and to keep me calm through my various uncomfortable times. Consequently, I may have been more comfortable towards the end of the pregnancy and been able to wait a little longer before feeling the need to deliver. I also think I would have had a clearer mind and have been able to make better decisions.
Why do you think it’s important to tell your story?
I do tell my personal story to my clients who are pregnant, as I hope it will make them think twice about what they are asking for. I try to make them aware that even though reflexology can be a powerful treatment during pregnancy, it is always best to wait for the right time for your baby to arrive. Even if it seems the right time for mum, baby may not be ready and sometimes, as long as your care team are happy, it may be the right thing to let your pregnancy go over 40 weeks.
Also I can vouch from personal experience the supportive benefits you gain from receiving reflexology throughout pregnancy. My 2 pregnancies really highlight this. If you are suffering with nausea, backache or SPD like I was, weekly treatments will support you until you feel better and more balanced. If you are having a glowing pregnancy, it’s not necessaryto come every week, but just as and when it fits into your life style. I would recommend 4 – 6 weekly sessions as you approach your due date. This is a wonderful way to bond with your baby and prepare you for birth.
Thank you Jane for the interview.
What To Do Next
If you would like to learn more about how reflexology can help you through your pregnancy, call Calm Therapy on 07734 695964. Jane is a fully qualified therapist, experienced at helping expectant mums with this safe treatment.You may want to read our interviews with 2 expectant mums Emily and Sarah, who Calm Therapy helped through their pregnancies.